I don’t have any idea about exercising vaginas of women until I came across this material on MBG. I only know about weight lifting which involves muscle enhancing of the body including the arms, chest, abs, etc. But vaginal enhancing (?) shaping (?) I don’t have any whimsy ideas regarding that. I smiled reading this piece as there exists some kind of a humorous, caprice thing about that delicate part of the female body.

I’m lifting it ( not the body part ) from MBG not to make fun of it but to relay some important facts regarding, oohhhh, vaginas.

For women readers, please don’t feel awful about this. Please press that LIKE button and don’t be ashamed.


“As a holistic sex and relationship coach, I employ a host of different methods to improve people’s intimate lives. I’m currently on a global campaign to raise the awareness of vaginal superpowers.

This involves my traveling to different locales, and shooting images of objects indigenous to the regions, which I lift with my vagina. You can check out the whole series on Instagram, which I catalog using #ThingsILiftWithMyVagina.

Vaginal Kung Fu is a method I teach for women to physically and emotionally reconnect to their vaginas, so they become more in tune with their sexual energy.

It’s like yoga. For your vagina.

By inserting a jade egg into the vagina and attaching a string to it, I “lift” any number of things: tropical fruits, gluten-free organic donuts, cold-pressed juices.

This strengthens the pelvic floor far more effectively than regular Kegels, and gives women sexual confidence and power.

A strong pelvic floor and vagina can bring a myriad of benefits to your life. Including:

  1. Have more orgasms.
  2. Have better orgasms. By better I mean, mind-, body- and spirit-altering orgasms that are longer, deeper, more intense, and include the ability to ejaculate.
  3. Keep your internal organs (I.e. no pelvic organ prolapse).
  4. Have an easier childbirth and recover more quickly afterward.
  5. Up your libido. When the vagina is weak, it feels numb. Sex is infinitely more pleasurable with a sensitive and articulate vagina.
  6. Eliminate issues of urinary incontinence.
  7. Increase circulation in the vaginal canal and produce lubrication more easily (this is the main reason women do not lubricate profusely).
  8. Integrate your sexual energy into everything you do. When women are dissociated from their vaginas, they are also cut off from the natural and enlivening flow of their sexual energy. When the vagina is brought back to life, that vital, life-force energy is available to you to channel into all parts of your life.
  9. A natural facelift. When you strengthen and pull up the pelvic floor muscles, you create an energetic lift throughout the entire body, which even registers in the face. I have had clients stop using Botox after beginning their lifting practice.
  10. Be able to shoot ping pong balls. This is every woman’s God-given right.

These things are possible for every woman: ping pong tricks, multiple orgasms, ejaculate that shoots across the room, and insane, life-changing pleasure.

All you need is a strong vagina.”

Photos courtesy of the author

Kim Anami is a sex and relationship coach, writer and speaker. Her musings on love, life and sex have graced the pages of Playboy, Elle, Glamour, Marie Claire and CNN. Explore her exquisite intimacy retreats, online salons and 1-on-1 offerings, at You can also find her onInstagram.





How about starting the new year with an article about sex. Oh, some have raised their eyebrows. This is just to inject some revitalizing shot in the arm to revive awareness about falling sex drives of couples. Reserve and secretive husbands and wives may find this obtrusive and flirtatious but, it is not. Couples who find their sex performances are already dull and boring and not as exciting and lively as their first encounter may find this useful. In the pursuance of their perfect harmony in sex, let this be the guiding light of seeking an enjoyable “circus” inside their room and as a partner through life’s journey.

Sex, sex, sex. It’s everywhere. A lot of the time, we rarely stop to consider sex enough, other than to think, “Oooh, I want it,” or, “Ugh, not again.”

In my work as a sex therapist, coach and counselor, I regularly meet couples and singles who are dissatisfied with their sex lives. They put so much effort into work, family and their health and well-being, but somehow sex gets neglected along the way as part of a healthy lifestyle.

We know that sex is good for us, and we also know it can feel good too. But did you know that sex can release lots of happy chemicals in the brain, including oxytocin and prolactin, which can leave us feeling great long after the session is over?

As part of a well-balanced lifestyle, sex and erotic expression should be considered as part of an overall approach to wellness. To help you on your way, I have compiled a top five kickstarter list to get you back on track and pumping delicious erotic energy through your veins!

1. Give yourself permission to have FUN!

So many people don’t prioritize pleasure as part of their health and well-being. There are many ways to have fun, and sex is only one of them, with some valuing it more than others. That’s OK. Give yourself permission to value sex in your own way, and not by comparison to others’ ideals or beliefs about what’s normal. Take it from me: in my profession I know there are infinite shades of normal, and all of them are fabulous and fun!

2. Make time.

One of the most common things I hear from people about sex is, “I’m just so busy, I don’t have time.” Sex, like anything else, uses muscles and reflexes, emotions and sensations, experiences and energy. Dulling ourselves down with stress, too much work and not enough pleasure time makes for grumpy people, an unpleasant workplace and a grumpy family.

By setting aside 15 minutes three times a week for partnered pleasure (or even solo sex if you’re not in a relationship — or even if you are), you’re making time to connect with your lover and yourself.

3. Learn.

Increasingly, people are expressing desire to try new things in the bedroom. In all other parts of our lives we embrace learning and expanding our knowledge. Why should sex be any different? Personally, I’m all for this and think it’s a great way to honor your sexuality and connection with your partner.

Trying new things can be both fun and also carry a few risks. Always seek out guidance about new activities if you’re unsure about what to do and where to start. Sex educators like myself run many workshops and seminars aimed at adults who want more from their sex lives and who want to learn how to try new things safely and respectfully.

4. Get physical.

Sometimes it’s easy to just lie back, or let ourselves “be done.” This is OK sometimes, but if this your regular repertoire, both you and your partner may get bored. Instead, MOVE! Try new positions and use your whole body during sex. Remember that sex is based on so much more than genitals, so experiment with the erogenous zones we all have, such as the belly, inner thighs, neck, lips and nipples!

5. Forget the pressure.

All too often sex can feel like a performance. Who pleases whom, how often and for how long? Sometimes taking inspiration from online videos can get us in the mood and even give us fresh ideas, but when we compare ourselves or try mimicking what we see online, we’re shortchanging ourselves from having a truly exquisite erotic experience. Enjoy the moment you’re in and take the time to appreciate your body and your lover’s body.

This is a lift from MBG by : Cyndi Darnell


The breakfast drink that battles cancer

woman drinking tea

If you down a soft drink in the morning to get yourself ready for your day, you’re making a big health mistake. It’s time to switch to a beverage that improves your cancer defenses and doesn’t make you more cancer-prone.

Research at the University of East Anglia Medical School shows that, for women, drinking tea or orange juice in the morning can significantly reduce the risk of epithelial ovarian cancer.

That type of cancer is the fifth-leading cause of cancer death among all women.

The scientists found that women who are steady consumers of drinks and food high in natural plant chemicals called flavonols and flavones have less chance of developing this kind of cancer. About 20,000 women in the U.S. are found to have ovarian cancer every year.

“We found that women who consume foods high in two sub-groups of powerful substances called flavonoids – flavonols and flavanones – had a significantly lower risk of developing epithelial ovarian cancer,” says researcher Aedin Cassidy. “The main sources of these compounds include tea and citrus fruits and juices, which are readily incorporated into the diet, suggesting that simple changes in food intake could have an impact on reducing ovarian cancer risk.”

To get the benefit of these natural chemicals, you don’t have to buy unusual types of tea. The ordinary type of tea in teabags available at the supermarket is beneficial.

In particular,” says Cassidy, “just a couple of cups of black tea every day was associated with a 31 per cent reduction in risk.”


This is a Lift from Easy Health Option by :

Carl Lowe

How I Turned My Worst Relationship Into My Best One

The love between my husband and me is strong, but our differences nearly destroyed us. My husband intimidated and confused me. I prioritized communication, and he was anything but verbose. Logical, yes. Practical, definitely. Romantic, not so much.

I started feeling insecure around him, and he couldn’t understand my emotional side. We attended couple’s therapy and read lots of relationship books together. Fortunately, we came out of our rough patch with a harmony that has lasted through our entire marriage.

Having successfully navigated our specific obstacles, I took with me some knowledge. Here are 5 ways we made our relationship the happiest one we have ever been in, despite major bumps on along the way …

1. We learned when to take each other seriously.

Laughter had always been a huge part of our union, but knowing when to set the jokes aside was a task that proved difficult for my husband. We were locked into a cycle of him laughing and me seething as a result; I wanted to probe certain issues further and more seriously.

So we came up with a kind of code-phrase, “Steak and potatoes,” which we began using if one of us needed to communicate something that required the full attention and consideration of the other person.

It was a simple and straightforward (and pleasantly lighthearted) way to alert each other to the need for seriousness. For example, I might say, “Steak and potatoes: When you browse your phone while I talk to you, it makes me feel unimportant and ignored.”

My husband and I have both agreed that whenever this phrase is uttered by either one of us, we need to take the other seriously. This is why we use our phrase very sparingly and know that, when used, it requires a firm resolution to focus on the issue at hand.

2. We tackle one issue at a time.

I used to spew out a zillion issues per second while my husband’s head bobbed to the side from the sheer exhaustion of having to listen to me rattle on.

It is inevitable that one person in the relationship will be slightly more comfortable with verbal communication than the other one, and it just so happened that I am that person. I used to expect my husband to keep each of my concerns organized in his head until I was finished listing them, but he would just zone out instead. This infuriated me.

That’s when we learned the definition of flooding. In the book The Seven Principles for Making a Marriage Work, the author John Gottman explains that “flooding” is when one person overwhelms the other with a flood of harsh criticisms.

“You flood me,” my husband exclaimed, holding up the book. We were both excited to discover that what I was doing had been given a name, and I was able to stop the cycle through understanding how flooding negatively affected my husband. In particular, the volume of my complaints was overwhelming to my husband, and therefore unproductive. He didn’t want to engage with me in that state.

But now if my husband ever feels overwhelmed, he simply says, “You’re flooding me.” I will immediately slow down so he can think and respond to each point without us both falling into the trap of negativity.

3. We get to the root of the problem.

One reason I tend to get so worked up over multiple little things is because there is always one big issue tying them all together. In my experience, talking things out usually allows me to tap into the root of the main problem ailing me — eventually, but not always.

If my husband simply asks, “Pattie, what is it that is really bothering you?” it helps me circumvent the smaller concerns and evaluate what is at the core of it all. Resolving what is at the heart of the matter from the get-go helps eliminate my need to fret over the small stuff as a way to realize what’s really bothering me.

Ultimately, I can just take a bit longer to breathe, think, and consider my emotions, and make the process simpler and less painful for the both of us.

4. We give each other space.

In the heat of the moment, my inclination is to talk until I turn blue in the face. My husband’s response to arguments is to disappear and escape the unpleasantness until he can get himself into the proper mindset to tackle the concern. This will always irritate me.

We found a compromise.

My husband now takes 10-20 minutes of alone time to process our conversation, and returns as a much more assertive, communicative and understanding partner. If he needs more time, he takes it. Our understanding is that whoever needs the most time is responsible to initiate the subject again so that it is resolved and not shoved under the rug.

5. We appreciate the good in each other.

We consciously decided years ago to verbalize our genuine appreciation for each other every single day, and we have stayed true to our word. It’s not that we don’t have our days of petty annoyances, but it has come to the point that because we remind each other of our good qualities each day, it is truly difficult to linger on the bad.

We notice that we both strive to get the positive accolades from each other, repeating the habits that got us here and creating a loving partnership that feels as fresh and new as the first day we met.

Photo courtesy of the author

This is a Lift from MBG by :

Patrice Herbst is an author who just finished writing her very first book. She is currently looking for a literary agent and publisher. Her book is a memoir about jealousy, self-discovery and the connection between mind and body. Her blogs and articles focus on the theme of living a more authentic life –– letting go of our fake selves and finding the courage to be genuine. She has been on the quest to live a healthier lifestyle through yoga, meditation and healthy eating. Her daily mantra is that you can find happiness when you make the choice to be happy.

6 Steps To Find Peace After A Painful Breakup


I married someone I thought I’d be with forever. Twelve years, one massive mortgage, three kids, a dog, eight guinea pigs, and four fish later, my marriage ended. Somehow, years after that, I found myself working with clients who were trying to move on after undergoing a painful breakup.

Here is what I’ve learned from my personal experience and from working with my clients: there are essential steps you can take to be proactive about finding peace and clearing the way for love again …

1. Feel it.

Forget the Buddhist approach of just watching your suffering go by. At least momentarily. This is a train wreck, and you’re in the middle of it. Cry, rage, feel. Numbing yourself just pushes your pain deeper, to where it festers and turns into some nasty illness or bubbles away until it explodes, volcanically — you know, like at the coffee place or restaurant when they get your order wrong.

2. Tell the story.

Share with close friends or a therapist the injustices, the anger, the frustration — all of the little (but painful) details that you keep fixating on. You may find you need to dwell on the nature of your sorrow; or how you miss this person, and your good memories. You may feel the impulse to revisit the final goodbye. Tell it.

Write about it. Write letters to your ex, which you don’t send. But it’s important to give your sadness, anger, frustration, and other emotions a voice. Articulate the unsaid things, at least to yourself and your support system. (That said, I do NOT recommend sending angry texts to your ex. Trust me on this one).

3. Then stop telling the story.

You don’t want to be one of those people who is in therapy telling your breakup story for twenty years. Your relationship ending is in the past, and it’s time to let it float from you like mist. Yes, mist.

Here’s a secret: your story doesn’t mean anything. Every single one of us has a story of heartbreak, suffering, injustice. Some are verifiably horrific, true. However, in terms of emotional pain, it’s all the same.

In fact, when you allow that story to float from you like mist, what you’ve got left is emotion.

4. Revisit #1. Feel your emotions and encourage yourself to learn from them.

Ask yourself what this emotion is telling you that you need in order to feel better.

Go back into the deep into the dark, empty hole of heartache bravely, with the attitude of a warrior. The pain is there, but don’t be afraid of it. It has lessons for you. Big, important life lessons.

Any one relationship is a steppingstone to greater self-awareness, and a refinement of what one wants and needs. The emotion you are feeling is the key to unlocking it.

Companionship? A committed partner? A higher self-esteem? A wonderful sexual connection? Let this revelation guide you to refine your desires and needs so that you find the next right person for you!

5. Cultivate your unique, most empowered self, one baby-step at a time.

You are not only grieving your former partner, but the you that you were with that partner, and the two of you as a collective unit.

But there was a unique you before your partner, and even a unique you during your relationship, even if you weren’t in touch with him/her. Ask yourself important questions: so who are you without him/her? What are your interests? Your hobbies? What do you want to do with your life? If you became one-half of your relationship unit, now’s the time to become 100 percent you.

Cultivate that you. 100 percent.

6. Find gratitude.

Every loss is a steppingstone to joy. You are learning, like a brave soul, how to find your way to more growth, more relationships, better connection. Contrast is a crucial element that helps us sort out what we want from what we don’t want. Thus pain paves the way to peace.

There is some great gift in this ending, something you have needed for you to become more empowered, to expand your consciousness, to help you make better choices — or perhaps to simply learn life’s biggest lesson: impermanence. The only thing that lasts forever is the wisdom you gain from living.

There are thousands of single people out there within driving distance. There are a million small accidents of fate that put your path in front of someone else’s path.

You might need to go through these steps more than once! But you will get through them with a little willingness. With an attitude of gratitude, your head can be held high, and your smile will be wide. You will have shifted your energy profoundly, and you will attract those who can see your radiance.

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Emma Michelle Dixon, Ph.D., is a sexuality and relationship coach, bodyworker, and workshop facilitator based in Sydney, Australia. She regularly presents workshops and talks on matters of sexuality as well as facilitates retreats on sexual healing. She is also the mother of two sons and a daughter, an internet entrepreneur and a novelist.

Women May Have Better Orgasms With Funny (Or Rich) Partners

(This is a Lift from MBG   by: Emi Boscamp – Nov. 12,2014)
Why are some orgasms better than others, even when there’s no obvious reason for a difference in quality? A new study has proposed an explanation: A woman’s orgasm helps her determine how good a partner the other person will be.

In other words, the stronger the orgasm, the more eligible the bachelor.

By surveying heterosexual female college students in committed relationships (and it’s worth noting that only heterosexual relationships were examined), researchers at the University of Albany looked at whether orgasm intensity, frequency, and sexual satisfaction are determined by a woman’s choice of mate.

The researchers found that the more frequently the women orgasmed, the more intense the orgasms were. What’s more, the “ideal” mate — someone who causes plentiful, and therefore powerful, female orgasms — is funny, highly attractive (with broad shoulders, specifically), self-confident, and has a high-earning family. Yes, you read that correctly: Women have stronger orgasms if their partner is rich.

The researchers said that “sense of humour not only predicted [a man’s] self-confidence and family income, but it also predicted women’s propensity to initiate sex, how often they had sex, and it enhanced their orgasm frequency in comparison with other partners.”

Now, this doesn’t mean you should start pining away for a broad-shouldered heir with a rapier wit, but the study does remind us that there’s more to sex than physical performance.

Or maybe it’s a message to all the men out there in committed, heterosexual relationships: If you’re trying to please your significant other in bed, consider focusing less on technique and more on your joke delivery.

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Emi Boscamp

Emi Boscamp is the Editorial Intern at MindBodyGreen. She received a BA in English and minors in Spanish and Art History from Cornell University. She lives in the East Village and enjoys cooking, eating, traveling, and writing about all three of those things. She loves anything pickled. And anything punny. (She’s kind of a big dill.)

Follow her adventures on Instagram: @emiboscamp


Not Everything Is Better With Bacon


If you’ve spent any serious time with the Food Network—I’ve probably logged enough hours in front of the TV to receive an honorary degree from the Culinary Institute of America—you’re all too familiar with one particular and constant banging of the rendering pot: “Everything’s better with bacon!”

is might be too much bacon.
via Daily Fork

John Fraser was able to bring the whole idea home, helping me find the words for my “everything’s better with bacon” disdain, and why I might actually prefer the taste of brussels to bacon when it comes to my sprouts. Fraser is the executive chef of New York City’s Narcissa, whose cuisine has been lauded for showcasing and revering vegetables as much as any of the menu’s wonderful animal proteins. A man who likes meat, but understands its place.

“My baseline is on the side of the purist,” he begins. “Just the other night I had a baked potato for dinner. It was served with bacon bits. No one is going to argue that bacon and potatoes taste good together. However, I showed up for the flavor of the potato, which I added butter and salt to. If I told you I was going to put a slab of chicken breast on a steak, you would call me nuts—they both taste good separately, but together there is a tug of war in terms of flavor. In bacon’s case, it’s not a tug of war—it takes over without a fight. I try to understand what bacon brings to a dish and look to emulate it in the dish preparation. Staying with the brussels sprouts—they love smoke and salt. Bacon is their soulmate. However, if you toss them on the wood grill whole and sprinkle them with some sea salt to finish, my bet is that I can convince you that the bacon actually covers the flavor of the brussels. I would like to work under the assumption that brussels are delicious alone, and that the bacon is a distraction rather than an enhancer.”

So not everything is better with bacon, after all? “I would respond that bacon always becomes the loudest friend in the room, and that’s OK sometimes,” Fraser says, “but there is nuance that it doesn’t allow. Sometimes you should listen to the quiet friend in the corner.”

That will be me, peacefully enjoying my bacon-free brussels, thinking about my next BLT.


Jason Adams is the former executive editor of Entertainment Weekly and has contributed to Food & Wine, GQ and Men’s Journal. You can follow him on Twitter at @jasonadamsrules.


 This is lifted from MBG, Mind Body and Green. I hope there ‘ll be many women readers that will like this.

As women, how often do we really see each other au naturel and actually feel comfortable?

When I was a schoolgirl in the U.S., I quickly mastered the art of changing my clothes in the locker room without even so much as shining as an ankle. Modesty was so prevalent, it was as though we were expected to somehow keep our clothes on even while getting undressed.

So when I accidentally found myself at a nudist spa retreat in the middle of the Austrian Alps last winter, it wasn’t surprising that I began to think about my body-baggage.

As my friend and I headed into the spa area, we expected to see fluffy white towels, bathing suits and bodies of all shapes and sizes. But instead, all that anybody was wearing was a birthday suit. I cringed. I didn’t sign up for this. I reverted back to that shy, seventh grade schoolgirl in the locker room.

Looking around the sea of naked bodies I felt immense shame. I don’t wax. I have stretch marks on my hips from having a baby. My left boob is a little bigger than my right boob. When was the last time I shaved my legs? Oh my God, that 50-year-old woman’s breasts are bigger than mine. Will my ass look like that when I’m 70? No. God no! At least I exercise. Well, I guess I’m thinner than she is. And so on.

My friend sighed, looked at me and said, “I think it’s considered rude if we don’t take our clothes off.” Rude?! So I refused, but after our first sauna, I began to understand the logic behind the no-clothes policy. I was seriously overheating. With a deep inhale (and an enormous sigh!) I took off my top.

My … boobs … There they were. I realized I had an easier time taking my shirt off in front of a sexual partner, than baring my breasts in public.

But instead of fixating on how my girls looked, I decided to redirect my focus to why I felt so much shame. Why was it my first impulse to compare my body to everyone else’s? Why was I cataloging every inch of cellulite I saw? Why was I obsessing over how awful I thought I looked?

Here are five liberating reasons why you shouldn’t be afraid to get naked:

1. “Perfect” is an illusion.

Even though I’m happy with my body most of the time, I still feel an immense pressure to appear “perfect”. From an early age I was taught how to make myself more appealing to men — how to flirt, wear heels, short skirts, wax my eyebrows, slather on makeup, etc. And still, when all the clothes come off, I tend to worry about all the imperfections because let’s face it, none of us are airbrushed.

“Imperfection” means there is an object of perfection, and that is just not true. Every body is different. As I looked around the spa that day it wasn’t my body that separated me from everyone else, it was my attitude.

2. Being vulnerable in front of others is a good thing.

In Europe Germany especially it’s perfectly normal to lose the swimsuit and go for a dip in the buff. Going to the sauna is a beloved pastime and it’s generally understood that everyone will be unclad. At the yoga studio where I teach, there’s even a coed sauna room in the basement in case you didn’t sweat enough in class. I’ve found that seeing other bodies in the nude can make us more comfortable in our own skin, if we’re willing to sit with the discomfort and fear.

3. When you judge other people, you judge yourself.

I realized I was afraid to confront my own self-judgment. Instead of practicing self-compassion, I defaulted to fear. Society has taught us to judge and criticize, instead of to love and care for ourselves and others.

The first time I stood at the front of a yoga classroom as a teacher, and saw everyone in Downward Dog, I realized just how many different down dogs there were. They didn’t look the ones you see in magazines, nor did they look like mine. But it was still a beautiful sight to see, nonetheless.

When you compare yourself to other people, it’s a form of self-harm. We have to take care of our bodies physically and emotionally, and sometimes it’s equally important if not more important to have an emotional fitness routine as well. Meditation is highly effective for this.

4. When you become comfortable being naked, you’ll feel less inclined to wear makeup and heels.

I was never a girly-girl it’s just not my natural state. Sometimes I feel like wearing lipstick (but most of the time I don’t) but I finally realized and accepted that this is OK. Making myself up was a way of putting myself down. Losing the costume helped me feel comfortable with just being myself.

5. Baring your bits to Mother Nature feels really good.

Like the snow on the pristine Alpine peaks, my body too will one day melt away. My bottom will get saggy and my skin will wrinkle.

If practicing yoga has taught me anything, it’s that I am not my body and I am not my mind. Everything in this world is material, and is subject to constant change. Even sitting here now and writing this, my body is changing. My skin is a material barrier to the world around me and somehow taking my clothes off on that mountain, made me feel more at peace with nature and with myself.

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